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So here I am after 23 yrs quitting the job, and moving on with my own biz....aaah in my head I have so much to say to some of the management team and co-workers who all expected a bit too much and a bit too little out of themselves.  Dont get me wrong...I have some awesome co-workers....and managers...but you know who you are...LOL those that created such a dismal arena in which to work.....what would you say if you could leave tomorrow?

I agree to some degree w/ not sayin anything because it really can come back to bite you later.... but there r situations where stuff needs to be said, plus you are starting your own buisness.  but this topic is also what you "want "to say but "wont"..so have at it...write it down, that sometimes does more good than actually saying it.  you can get it out of you and yet not have to worry about the back lashes of it.  I will tell you one experience i had that i did not hold back i siad what i needed to say.  My place of work didnt have a posted schedual at first, we were just told individually when we worked.  I had 2 jobs and was a single parent mind you.  seemed like i had no time off cause i only had weekends off at the one job and only thur off at the other.  one day they actually posted the schedual and i realized that the only people who had one day off was me and the mang...even the asst mang was gettin more than one day off.  So when i brought this up to the mang and asked if i could start getting atleast one more day off a week.... she replyed that my duaghter just needed to learn mommy had to work... i told her where to stick that job... gave her my stuff and clocked out and never went back to that store.  Soon after i got hired on full time at my other job so everything worked out for the better.

I'd love to say: "Professionalism and respect are non-existent on a daily basis, coming from the two people who should be a much better example, given the positions they hold. There is a severe lack of consideration and training, until your employees get fed up and it's too late. Though training is grossly unstructured and weak, superiors expect new employees to know everything about the business after a few months. Management has made many obvious and rediculous mistakes. Mistakes that would not be tolerated in most businesses. You've been aware of these issues for YEARS, but have not taken the appropriate actions to improve the environment. This is why your turnover rate is so high."

when i left, i wanted to tell my former boss that this was one of the most unhealthy work environments that i have ever worked in and hope that i would never have to experience again. it was like being in a long-term relationship with someone constantly undermining your efforts, constantly micro-managing you and your decisions, and generally making one feel that they were never good enough for the position. the boss was such an evil snag.

I still work in an extremely unhealthy environment. I'm on the job search engines daily to find work at a different company because there's so much backbiting to get ahead. The boss says very hurtful things, especially when someone is there who he is trying to impress. My co-workers seem to all be against me. None of them respect the way I do my work. There is one particular co-worker who constantly tries to upstage me in front of the customers. She tries to make it like everything I touch, do  or say is "wrong." If I didn't have kids, I would've left long ago whether I had another job lined up or not. But due to my parental responsibilities, I'm trying to find something else so that I may leave as gracefully as possible. But let me tell you that it's becoming more unbearable by the day. Sometimes I just want to "snap!" But I must stay in control and suppress all my feelings (which is so unhealthy). So, if anyone knows of a decent company that's currently hiring, I'm open to your suggestions. Thanks.

Thank you for sharing. Chicago, Illinois! I appreciate any feedbck.

Anonymous says ...

Writer's Digest had a home assignment a few years ago that let you tell your boss exactly how you felt on your way out the door but you had to do it in 75 words or less.  I wish I had saved a copy but it went something like this:

You will always be a unethical, lying thief.  I on the other hand will become successful and laugh in your face when I am there to see you finally get what's coming to you.

 

The funny thing about this, this particular boss of mine did get his in the end.  It took about 4 years of him pulling the wool over everyone's eyes before someone finally got it and they did in fact fire him! 

This is hilarious!!!  I love it!! 

I was told never burn your bridges before you leave a job.  However, what I would have liked to say the last day of some of my jobs is, "You know I never really liked you"  and "You get on my nerves" or "You are quite arrogant and I am sick of hearing about you all of the time"

Oh boy, this is a REALLY BIG topic for me!  I have been at my job 12 years and all I see is the company hiring new people to fill all the new positions created. The only people who are getting opportunities are young (under 30).  People like me (over 40) get lip service at best!

I also have serious trust issues with my "boss" who is about 20 yrs younger, has a third of my experience and thinks he knows everything!  He plays favorites, gives his "pets" all the great assignments, supports them even if they are wrong and everyone else gets crap and bad reviews!

I would want to say "I never felt welcome here.  I never felt like I was appreciated. It doesn't seem to matter what my talents and skills are, I am just expected to do as I am told and never question anyone."  I would also say that if the company wants to grow and be a player in the marketplace, they need to treat people better.  Pay and benefits and parties are not what people want.  We want respect, trust and the opportunity to learn and grow in our jobs.  It has be about more than just a paycheck!

Anonymous says ...

I'd love to say: "Professionalism and respect are non-existent on a daily basis, coming from the two people who should be a much better example, given the positions they hold. There is a severe lack of consideration and training, until your employees get fed up and it's too late. Though training is grossly unstructured and weak, superiors expect new employees to know everything about the business after a few months. Management has made many obvious and rediculous mistakes. Mistakes that would not be tolerated in most businesses. You've been aware of these issues for YEARS, but have not taken the appropriate actions to improve the environment. This is why your turnover rate is so high."

 

I agree. It is hard to work on a team these days with people who only look through a keyhole and not a micrisope to see the large distance of things. I have been in charge which was I dislike doing sometimes because I am not one of those power happy egotistical witches. I like to try and be on a team. Some how the people who work under me and over me aren't always like that. People who are under me are healous and think if I leave they can do what I can do. They can, however not as well and definately not as good as a functioning team.  I have worked for boss's who were though. Where it was not about the team it was about them selves. I had went to my boss and told her I highly respect you and I would like for you to be a mentor. I even explained a couple of ideas for new programs to be implemented since we were under staffed and anything would help. She used that Idea as her own, she also favored the other people in there that really didn't do that much. When I started to get to good they all started to get on me which sucks by the way because all I was trying to do was strengthen my skills and like I said I wanted her to be my mentor. That lasted very shortly though once I seen her true colors and how shallo she was. Believe me she was shallo. She ruined my name and all the respect I had earned for myself within the company. At the same time I did not have the usual strength I had to stand up for myself either. I was having a lot of at home issues. Long story short, If I ever see her again I will just smile with a f*** you and be so nice it will make her want to vomit. Sorry is that to much info?

Anonymous says ...

i would tell my boss to go f-off... and tell him that the only reason people tolarate him is because he kisses arse all the time and because of the position that he holds (which btw it was a position created out of thin air)...  depending on how i left i actually might consider letting higher ups know that while people are getting laid off and the financial insitution is at a dire state my boss decieded that its ok to spend a 200.00 night at a hotel because he didnt like another name brand hotel and he chooses to take cabs to work every day because he cant walk 5 blocks... and that he takes 2 hour lunches with WOMEN ONLY no men at all (i smell sexual harrasment)....

ok based on the above you can tell i really dislike my boss... he is truly a pain in the arse... calls me on weekends... doesnt let me take lunch or vacation.... thinks the world revolves around him....

as for the co-workers depending on who they are and how they treated me i would tell them to go and shove it where the sun doesnt shine...

you think it would be unethical to send someone a vibrator with a note saying you need to get laid and maybe youll loosen up and stop being such a bitch?

Depending on why she is being a bitch? Maybe she is getting laid and just going through menapause. In that case you may want to send her a fan and heater for those hot and cold flashes.